I spoke to a friend today, she was really upset. The problem was shocking! her husband had not touched her for months. First I laughed then I asked did she have someone else? she responded of course not I am a Christian. UM WHAT? I had no comeback for that. They had been married for almost twenty years and the sex had just fizzled. She explained that for many years her husband was addicted to porn, a seven year age difference, and she said he packed on a few pounds. I asked my friend did she still love him? the answer was NO. I said no, well why are you staying? she said I am comfortable, he pays all the bills and I have little worries. I was so sad to hear that, I mean I believe in marriage also, But I do believe in separating. This was hard as I could hear the tears through the phone. I said please explain, start from the beginning.
When i met my husband i was full of life. I had two kids before we met, my own place a great job and good friends. he was a devout christian or at least he pretended to be. I was the streets and the streets was me. I had fun and lots of it. He really wasn't my type as I look back, we came from two different world's. Please don't get me wrong he was a nice man, just not for me. I liked fast cars and even faster men. Eventually he won me over but from the beginning there was problems. I hated his mother she was always in my business. I was never good enough, no matter what I did. He was a mother's boy. He told her everything, and they were to close for my taste. they shared bank accounts, whatever he needed she provided, but then complained after. I had two children with two different fathers and she made feel like a whore. She was a woman with two different fathers, but she was smart enough to keep her married name and give her children the same name. i investigated her like she investigated me. She was like him a church going hypocrite.
I told him I didn't like her and she couldn't come to my house, he had two sister's but only claimed one. as a matter of fact my children don"t even know the other one. his father was in and out his life, but still I liked his father. My husband was deceitful, there was a time he bought me a cat and then he took the cat when I wasn't around and discarded the animal like trash.
I left him once and it took a year for us to get back. I had met a man that made me feel like a woman, he was wonderful. we talked and we laughed and we just enjoyed each others company, he had one problem his penis was too small, or maybe I was too big. Either way when he crawled on me I hated pretending that he was great all those sounds I made to make him feel good. Another problem was how fast he ejaculated. 30 seconds tops. Oh boy when i think back that was one factor that made go back. My husband had said he was a changed man, his mother was telling him to stay divorced all while she was sending me birthday cards to another man's house. His mother was just messy. I now understand why she is alone. I didn't want to go back but I thought about the kids, what was best for them.I guess I could of stayed, maybe bought some vagina tightener to help! Anyway when i came back these were good for about two weeks after that, I found out his mother was running my social to find out info about me, I found out my husband was trying to talk to some of my co-workers, but i had already moved back.
I tried to have sex but he's a big man, if I have a belly and he have a belly that is a no go. he has never been able to go downtown good. I thought maybe because we are older but nope the sex is just no good, too rough and it lasts about one minute and then to sleep he goes. well faith its been almost twenty years and I am set, True love no, comfortable -yes.
Well thank you for being a listening ear, That was a lot. No problem, I am so sorry that all that happened to you. I hope that you will try to enjoy the rest of your life, and remember love is patient and kind all you have to do is try.
When i met my husband i was full of life. I had two kids before we met, my own place a great job and good friends. he was a devout christian or at least he pretended to be. I was the streets and the streets was me. I had fun and lots of it. He really wasn't my type as I look back, we came from two different world's. Please don't get me wrong he was a nice man, just not for me. I liked fast cars and even faster men. Eventually he won me over but from the beginning there was problems. I hated his mother she was always in my business. I was never good enough, no matter what I did. He was a mother's boy. He told her everything, and they were to close for my taste. they shared bank accounts, whatever he needed she provided, but then complained after. I had two children with two different fathers and she made feel like a whore. She was a woman with two different fathers, but she was smart enough to keep her married name and give her children the same name. i investigated her like she investigated me. She was like him a church going hypocrite.
I told him I didn't like her and she couldn't come to my house, he had two sister's but only claimed one. as a matter of fact my children don"t even know the other one. his father was in and out his life, but still I liked his father. My husband was deceitful, there was a time he bought me a cat and then he took the cat when I wasn't around and discarded the animal like trash.
I left him once and it took a year for us to get back. I had met a man that made me feel like a woman, he was wonderful. we talked and we laughed and we just enjoyed each others company, he had one problem his penis was too small, or maybe I was too big. Either way when he crawled on me I hated pretending that he was great all those sounds I made to make him feel good. Another problem was how fast he ejaculated. 30 seconds tops. Oh boy when i think back that was one factor that made go back. My husband had said he was a changed man, his mother was telling him to stay divorced all while she was sending me birthday cards to another man's house. His mother was just messy. I now understand why she is alone. I didn't want to go back but I thought about the kids, what was best for them.I guess I could of stayed, maybe bought some vagina tightener to help! Anyway when i came back these were good for about two weeks after that, I found out his mother was running my social to find out info about me, I found out my husband was trying to talk to some of my co-workers, but i had already moved back.
I tried to have sex but he's a big man, if I have a belly and he have a belly that is a no go. he has never been able to go downtown good. I thought maybe because we are older but nope the sex is just no good, too rough and it lasts about one minute and then to sleep he goes. well faith its been almost twenty years and I am set, True love no, comfortable -yes.
Well thank you for being a listening ear, That was a lot. No problem, I am so sorry that all that happened to you. I hope that you will try to enjoy the rest of your life, and remember love is patient and kind all you have to do is try.
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