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My Spouse Cheated

Having a loved one cheat is hard. What can you do?

     like most women I wanted a fairytale marriage.  most young girls are groomed to grow up and get married. Our parents buy the boy and girl dolls always a big toy house for the family.  That grooms most of us to have a big house and Barbie never has a Honda. she always have a nice ride. We are taught to go to school to get a good paying job never to own a business, well most anyway. By the way did I mention we always have a quiet baby that never needs us,,

     Almost over night seems like we're adults. Well for me it did, one day I was a child then whammy I was an adult. I had a husband , some kids and I was in the game called life. Some of the first issues I think as women  we encounter is honesty. Most of the time we go into the marriage with secrets. men  too.
    Some of us marry sneaky people. it's only fair I say these people were already low-life's when you met them. You just didn't  know. Most women fall in love to fast, all within a year we are in love and have children, Then the honey moon wears off. you gain a few pounds, you smack, you fart, baby daddy issues then he moves on.
     We accept men who do not deserve us, that's not to say that all men are trash because most are very good. We have some real stars out here, but if he's a star, he wants a star too. I'm just sayin people want equal are better.
    Let me give you an example I had a friend who met a man on(POF) within two months he was in love, she wasn't but she needed a place to say. I told her bad idea. she moved in and they were married.

    While living with him he had lots  of cars on his property , he asked her to physically help him push them from one side of the yard to the next. He didn't know how to cook, making love was sketchy. He told her upon moving in  he had a lot of bills. Now a normal man or woman would have turned and ran.
   She later found out she was his third wife. This was normal for him. after they broke up four months later he was in love again.
   Women most time we are the rebound. we find the rebound and we settle. How many friends do you have that are willing to date a married man who is separated, then you find out he went back to his wife..
     First love yourself, when you get married realize you are marrying a completely different person, he wasn't raised like you. learn his strengths and his weaknesses it will help when you get married.
    That credit score is important ask about it, ask how he wants to parent any future children, if he has a different religion from you come to a common ground, But please remember your husband should not be your entire world, have some friends and the last bit of advice: girls let the man be a man, we each have a role so play yours.
     Try not to listen to people who are not happy and do not have time invested. Some of your friends will want you divorced because they don't have what you do..

pick your friends and husband like you pick fruit.
Bloopy by simone faith
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